Archive | May, 2012

Wedding Day Tips

28 May

Courtesy of Michelle Gunton Photography.

For many brides, it’s quite easy to get caught up in all the chaos on your wedding day… hair, nails, making sure you have your shoes, etc. {Relax!}  Here are a few tips that you’ll probably tend to overlook; however, try to keep these important tips in mind on your wedding day.

~      Get enough sleep the night before!  Easy to say, hard to          do … we know, but it will help you feel so much better              in the morning.

~     Try not to drink too much at your rehearsal dinner…                 you don’t want to be hungover the day of your wedding!

~     Remember to keep food in your stomach!  Begin the day with a healthy meal           and try to eat small healthy snacks throughout the day.

~     Make an emergency kit that includes: back-up makeup, a sewing kit, a few                 bobby pins, a few safety pins, double-sided tape, clear nail polish, colored                 nail polish (if you or your bridesmaids happen to chip a toe nail!), an extra               set of hose or stockings, Excedrin, Tylenol, band-aids, tampons, tissues,                   breath mints, superglue (to mend any broken heels), a small bottle of water,           and hand lotion.

~     Keep lip balm handy.  Nervousness can cause dry lips.

~     Drink lots of water!

~     Bring a comfy pair of shoes to change into after the ceremony. Unless you                 were born to wear heels, you’ll feel much better after kicking them off and               putting on some dancing shoes!  Don’t leave your reception in blisters!

~     Take some time to relax!  Remember to have fun and keep the stress to                     minimum.  Soak in your wedding day and store all the wonderful moments to         memory!

Tradition of the Ring Finger

16 May

Have you ever wondered why it’s tradition to place the engagement ring and then wedding band on the fourth finger of the left hand (the ring finger)?

The idea of giving a ring to a women to symbolize her betrothal dates back to the 11th century in Rome where they ceased to consider marriage a “wife-purchase” and saw it as a civil compact.  The betrothal ring (annulus pronubis) was a symbol of the compact as no legal forms were written.  Derived from this Roman belief, Henry Swinburne published a work, A Treatise of Spousal or Matrimonial Contracts, in 1686 where the term vena amoris was first used.  Vena amoris is Latin for “vein of love” or “vein of the heart.”  The belief is that there is a vein connecting the heart to the ring finger on the left hand, a symbol of love.

Today, many consider this theory/belief to be false as there are veins in all the fingers that are connected to the heart.  The belief and tradition, however, remains steadfast among most western cultures as the ideal place for the wedding ring.

Toasting Etiquette

9 May

Just as with most other things at a wedding, there is a proper etiquette to toasting!  It can be confusing if you’ve never heard of the “rules” associated with toasting.  So take a look at some guidelines to follow when either making or accepting a toast.

~      Traditional order for toasting: The bride’s father OR the best man, the groom thanking his father-in-law or best man and to his new wife, the maid of honor, the groom’s father (if not the best man), the bride, then any guests.

~      For an engagement party or rehearsal dinner, the host should make the first toast.

~      If you are the toastee, it isn’t proper to drink to yourself or raise your glass.  Stay seated and thank the one doing the toasting.

~     If the group is large or it’s a formal occasion, the toaster and toastee may stand together.

~      The host must attract the crowd’s attention before making his toast, which he does by standing and raising his glass-not by banging on a glass with a utensil. No matter how large and noisy the crowd, repeating “May I have your attention” as often as necessary is the more courteous option.

~     If you are doing the toasting, make sure the host has gone first and NEVER toast with water as this is vey unlucky.  Feel free to toast with any other beverage, even an empty glass!

~     Make sure that all the glasses are filled before toasting. The glasses don’t have to hold champagne or wine or any other alcoholic beverage; it’s perfectly fine for nondrinkers to toast with water, juice, or a soft drink. Even an empty glass is better than nothing.

~      Keep the toasts to about 3 minutes, short and sweet, avoid vulgarity, add humor, look people in the eye, and be sure to talk about both the bride and groom.

Here are a few of our favorite toasts… Enjoy!

Here’s to a sweetheart, a bottle, and a friend. 
The first beautiful, the second full, the last ever faithful.

 

Here’s to the bride and the groom!
May you have a happy honeymoon,
May you lead a happy life,
May you make a bunch of money soon,
And live without all strife.

 

A toast to love and laughter and happily ever after!

Bouquet & Garter Toss

3 May

This was the group of single ladies from my own wedding reception… needless to say the one who ended up with my ‘toss bouquet’ isn’t even touching it in this picture!

Dating back to the 14th century, the bouquet toss was born out of the bride’s desire to stop her guests from tearing and ripping her wedding dress – it was considered that everything the bride touched was good luck!

Nowadays, when the bride tosses her bouquet (often these days a smaller, tossing bouquet is used so the bride can keep her original*), she is passing along her good luck to a single woman that she will be the next to marry.

As with the bouquet toss, the garter toss began in the 1500’s; only this tradition began as a way to make sure the marriage had been consummated.  The bridesmaids and groomsmen would sneak up to the couple while they slept in their wedding bed and take proof that the “deed was done” by grabbing the bride’s garter; then worn to hold up her stockings.

For my own wedding, I decided to wear two garters. One garter was worn by my mother at her wedding for my 'something borrowed' and a new garter was given to me by my best friend for my 'something new!'

For my own wedding, I decided to wear two garters. One garter was worn by my mother at her wedding for my ‘something borrowed’ and a new garter was given to me by my best friend for my ‘something new!’

These days, the garter is removed at the reception (keeping unwanted guests from the couple’s bedroom) by the groom, showing that the bride is all his, and is flung to single men as they might catch it and gain some “luck” of their own.

Not sure which leg to place the garter on? Left? Right? Does it really matter? Honestly, it doesn’t matter. Garters were made to keep stockings up on both legs… so it’s up to you! Keep the groom guessing.

*{Toss bouquet} Many brides today are opting for a small arrangement of all baby’s breath, silk flowers or even a smaller version of their own bouquet to throw to the single ladies. Many brides want to keep their own bouquet and preserve it for years to come!

Adding the Rhyme to Your Wedding

1 May

The bride, Jenna, borrowed her Matron of Honor’s jeweled headpiece and her mother’s veil to wear at her wedding.

Now that we’ve discussed where this timeless traditioncomes from, here are a few ways to incorporate each into your wedding.

For the Something Old, popular ideas include using a family heirloom such as jewelry, a handkerchief, pictures of grandparents to be carried (or, if small enough, hung) with the bridal bouquet or placed in frames at the reception, or use pieces from your mother or grandmother’s wedding gown in your own.

The Something New part is generally pretty easy to include as many brides will use the new wedding dress, shoes, jewelry, or even a garter. A new pair of diamond earrings from the groom would be nice, wouldn’t it?

Something blue… fabulous shoes!

When deciding on Something Borrowed, usually you’ll want to choose someone who is happily married and close to you.  Items can include jewelry, a headpiece, hair bobbles, borrow a book from a friend for a passage to be used during the ceremony, or borrow your happily married friend’s son or daughter to be used as the ring bearer or flower girl in your wedding.

Another idea for ‘Something Blue’ for the gentlemen… {love!}

Something Blue can be used in a number of ways throughout a wedding.  If you don’t choose to have blue in your theme, then you can incorporate blue by wearing a blue garter, use blue ribbons in your bridal bouquet, wear blue heels (have your bridesmaids sign the bottom in blue Sharpie), use sapphire jewelry, or have blue in your wedding favors.

As for the Sixpence In Your Shoe, these can be easily bought online from a company or even eBay as they are still available to this day for brides to use on their wedding day!

%d bloggers like this: